Dysfunctional Families: Sibling Rivalry

Dysfunctional Families: Sibling Rivalry

In estate litigation, what euphemistically might be called “sibling rivalry” often in reality borders on sibling hatred and jealousies. In some species, fortunately not humans, the firstborn is known to deliberately kill the second born. Sibling rivalry can happen in any family, but is particularly… Read more

Quiz: Is Your Family Dysfunctional?

Quiz: Is Your Family Dysfunctional?

I have blogged many articles on aspects of dysfunctional families and thought it might be helpful to have a questionnaire to assist in analyzing just how dysfunctional ones family might be. The list of course is not exhaustive and is simply an indicator as to… Read more

Dysfunctional Families: Cultural Differences

Dysfunctional Families: Cultural Differences

I was in mediation last week with a Southeast Asian family where I represented four daughters in an inheritance dispute against their two brothers. The sole asset in the estate was a proximally 75 acres of farmland, upon which all of the siblings had worked… Read more

4 Unhealthy Roles Created in Dysfunctional Families

4 Unhealthy Roles Created in Dysfunctional Families

It is well-established that dysfunctional families create some very unhealthy roles for its participants. It is beyond doubt that early childhood trauma and its wounding effects are carried well into adulthood for the remainder of one’s life. I venture to say that most “street people”… Read more

23 Signs of Undue Influence in Dysfunctional Families

23 Signs of Undue Influence in Dysfunctional Families

Undue influence is very common in dysfunctional families and many of the indicators to watch out for are summarized in this blog. I am frequently approached by members of a family who suspect that one or more of their siblings have unduly influenced or will… Read more

Dysfunctional Families: Depersonalization Disorder

Dysfunctional Families: Depersonalization Disorder

Most of my clients at disinherited.com come from what generally might be described as dysfunctional families that ultimately result in a disinheritance for a number of complex reasons. Part of my job as an estate litigation lawyer is to try and understand the complexity of… Read more

Predatory Marriage

Predatory Marriage

Probably every experienced estate litigation lawyer has had court actions involving a predatory spouse. The phenomenon is disturbing and increasingly common in our society as individuals both live longer and accumulate more wealth. In simple terms, predatory spouses take advantage of elderly victims and assume… Read more

Dysfunctional Families: How to Survive Them

Dysfunctional Families: How to Survive Them

I commonly used to joke with the audience of speaking engagements by asking the question- ” Are there more functional families are dysfunctional families”? I do not know the answer, but invariably it raised a nervous bout of laughter. There is  a huge range of… Read more

Dysfunctional Families: Your Family May Actually Hate You

Dysfunctional Families: Your Family May Actually Hate You

Does your family actually hate you, or just act like it? I spend a good deal of time in my estate litigation practice explaining to clients the various aspects to dysfunctional families, which they invariably come from. I keep a number of my previous articles… Read more

Dysfunctional Families: Financial Control

Dysfunctional Families: Financial Control

Financial abuse in dysfunctional families is a common tactic to gain power and control within the family. I was reminded about this fact when reading an article in the British Telegraph today about a large divorce settlement between  the long time spousal owners of Laura… Read more

Signs Your Senior Loved One is a Victim of Elder Abuse

Signs Your Senior Loved One is a Victim of Elder Abuse

The following article on signs of elder abuse  is reprinted with the permission of Sally Perkins , an American former home care and hospice manager. Signs Your Senior Loved One is a Victim of Elder Abuse If only we lived in a world where people… Read more

Dysfunctional Families and Becoming Disinherited

This video is about dysfunctional families. Chances are, if you’re watching this video or you have read the article called Dysfunctional Families on our website, then you’ll know a lot about this topic. However, many people that come in our office actually are absolutely amazed… Read more

Dysfunctional Families: Emotional Manipulation

Dysfunctional Families: Emotional Manipulation

Emotional manipulation refers to the attempt to  indirectly or directly influence or control someone else’s behaviour or actions, and is commonly found in dysfunctional families. In estate litigation, I commonly hear my clients complain of being subjected to various forms of psychological manipulation, particularly in… Read more

Abuse, Neglect and Wills Variation

Abuse, Neglect and Wills Variation

In my four decades of experience most wills variation claims  bring with them an individual or even sibling collective  story of abuse, neglect, and  other dysfunctions that result in a disinheritance to top it all off. It is settled law that the wills variation act ( now… Read more

Dysfunctional Families: Shunning

Dysfunctional Families: Shunning

Of the many dysfunctional families cases that I have handled, the most insidious was that of a teenage girl who accused her grandfather of molesting her only to find out that she became  shunned by her entire family, all while continuing to live in the… Read more