My experience is that many children of parents with a personality disorder end in estate litigation, and I may be important to recognize this.
Generally speaking, people with personality disorders have poor coping skills and the impact of aging and loss of independence challenges those skills and typically results in an exacerbation of inappropriate and difficult to handle behavior.
Many people with personality disorder are highly anxious, at times dramatic, manipulative, emotionally reactive and verbally aggressive, inappropriate/cold with loved ones and caregivers.
Characteristic of Personality Disorder
Apparently all persons with personality disorder have four characteristics in common:
a) A capacity due to simply” irritate to death” others;
b) strong tendencies to revoke interpersonal conflict;
c) inflexible and maladaptive responses to stress;
d) disability in working with and loving others
Those who deal with people with personality disorders learn early on to avoid any type of criticism whatsoever, and to expect verbal abuse.
The person with personality disorder tends to see the world in terms of black and white, such as good or bad, friends or enemy ,distrusting or gullible.
People with personality disorders often deliberately leave their estate in a conflicted mess – I frequently refer to them as “laughing in their grave”.