Crime Does Not Pay In Estate Inheritances Unless Criminally Insane

Estate Inheritances

Yesterday I blogged about who were nieces and nephews in the Re Holmes Estate.

One of the interesting side issues of the Holmes Estate case was that pursuant to the deceased’s will, if any of the 2 testator’s nieces or nephews predeceased the testator, that person share of his estate was to be paid to the predeceased person’s spouse.

In fact the spouse of one of the nieces of the deceased, had been convicted of her murder several years prior.

The court held that the convicted spouse of the deceased niece was not entitled to her share of the estate, because of the general rule of public policy precluding a person from benefiting from a crime.

Accordingly the Court held that the gift to the nieces and nephews was a class gift,  and when a class member was disqualified from taking a share, that share was to go to increase the shares of the surviving class members.

The Court followed the Supreme Court of Canada decision of Nordstrom v Baumann 37 WWR 16, ( 1962) SCR 147 which had clearly stated that the will of public policy which precludes a person from benefiting from his or her own crime overrides the statute law as to the distribution of the estate of an intestate.

The court easily held that it is permissible in civil actions to make findings of fact which you proven in criminal proceedings would be held criminal.

Accordingly Canadian civil courts have repeatedly determined the question of whether or not the conduct of an individual amounts to a crime, for the purpose of invoking the rule of public policy precluding a person from benefiting from his own crime.

In this case the will, the questionable beneficiary was found to be criminally insane at the time she said a fire which cause the death of her husband.

Accordingly the court allowed her to inherit, as the finding of insanity did not prevent her from inheriting due to public policy. Her share was thus placed with the Public Guardian.

Ending Life Support – The Ng Case

Ending Life Support

 

disinherited.com was initially consulted in this most interesting court case only days before a decision had been made to end Kenny Ng’s life.

 

I retained Candace Cho, my mentee, to act in the matter and shadowed her handling of the court action, including sitting at counsel table while she ably argued the case on behalf of the family, opposing the wife’s application to end Kenny’s life support.

 

The reporter, Ian Mulgrew sat in the court room for most of the legal submissions and wrote the following balanced view of this intriguing questions:

 

What is in the best interest of the patient, Kenny Ng- to live or to die, and who should make that decision?

 

Brain injured man at centre of legal battle over whether to remove feeding tubes

 

A car accident left former math whiz in a vegetative state, now his wife and family are at odds over his fate

 

BY IAN MULGREW, VANCOUVER SUN DECEMBER 5, 2012
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A 57-year-old Vancouver man who has languished in a coma for seven years has become the focus of a tragic family tug-of-war in B.C. Supreme Court over whether he should live or die.

Photograph by: Steve Bosch , PNG files

A 57-year-old Vancouver man who has languished in a vegetative state for seven years has become the focus of a tragic family tug-of-war over whether he should live or die.

His wife Lora wants medical staff to remove Kenny Ng’s feeding tubes, which will cause him to starve to death over about two weeks.

His parents, siblings and relatives, however, have asked B.C. Supreme Court Justice Miriam Gropper to intervene and keep Ng alive in the hope he can benefit from recent neuroscience medical discoveries.

They argue Ng’s wife should be replaced as the person making decisions about his long-term care at the George Pearson Centre, since he may qualify for pioneering treatments by celebrated brain researcher Adrian Owen.

“They believe that Dr. Owen’s study is exactly what Kenny has been waiting for over the last seven years,” the family’s lawyer Candace Cho said. “And knowing Kenny’s belief in technology and progress, they believe that Kenny would jump at the chance at participating in the study.”

On Tuesday, she played for the judge a short, heart-rending video of the man in his hospital bed reflexively responding to visitors.

“The fact is, Kenny is very much alive,” Cho maintained.

“He is breathing on his own, able to move his head around, make noises, open his eyes, and the only thing that the hospital is doing to keep him alive is to feed him nutrition and fluids.”

Several members of Ng’s family sat stoically on one side of the courtroom, his wife inscrutable on the other.

Ng was described as a former math-whiz who graduated from Sir Charles Tupper secondary. He became an electrical engineer and started his own successful business, Phase Technology, involving the design, manufacture and sale of petroleum analysers.

His predicament is reminiscent of a recent Alberta case involving a young girl the courts ordered to be taken off life-support in spite of her parents’ wishes.

The judges in that province endorsed the view that life support should be terminated where medical specialists unanimously believe the patient was without awareness or hope of recovery and invasive treatment provided no potential benefit.

Lawyers for Ng’s wife say that’s the situation here, although the family insists otherwise.

“This is not the case of a brain-dead patient on ventilators and any type of machine imaginable to keep him alive, with absolutely no chance of recovery and a family that is holding onto his life for their own benefit and comfort,” Cho said.

Lawyers for Ng’s wife argued, though, that is exactly the case — loved ones who can’t say goodbye making “outrageous allegations” while hoping for a miracle.

“It’s an affront to (Ng’s) human dignity,” said lawyer David Dahlgren.

Ng suffered traumatic brain injuries on Sept. 9, 2005, during a car accident in Washington State that killed his eldest son, injured his two other children and left his wife badly hurt. Since then, he has been minimally conscious.

Over the last year, Ng’s family told the court his wife has become estranged from them and no longer committed to doing what is in his best interest.

“Kenny’s estate was worth approximately $3.3 million in 2006,” Cho said, arguing that financial gain was a factor.

Mrs. Ng’s lawyers dismissed such “offensive” claims as defying belief, given Mrs. Ng’s devotion to her husband’s care — she hired an expert acupuncturist and took Ng on outings to a mall and the local Home Depot to stimulate him.

She hoped he would recover but came to realize it was futile and decided to have the tubes providing food and fluid removed after Ng’s care team concluded such a decision was “medically appropriate.”

“We’re here today, my lady, because the [family] are regrettably or sadly unable to accept the reality of Mr. Ng’s condition,” lawyer Gary Fraser said.

“They cannot let go of Mr. Ng for their own personal reasons …. They simply can’t let go.”

Shortly after the horrific accident, Fraser explained, doctors said it would be appropriate to remove Ng’s feeding tubes.

Lora Ng didn’t’t act on that advice but waited to see if her husband improved. She made the decision to remove the tubes “after wrestling with it for almost seven years,” Fraser added.

“It wasn’t made in haste, it wasn’t rushed.”

But the family insisted letting Ng die would be wrong given the startling work in neuro-imaging by Dr. Owen, which proves some patients suffering from locked-in syndrome, or who have lain in vegetative states for years, may be more conscious than we realize.

In 2010, Owen, then at the University of Cambridge, UK, communicated with a man who had been in a coma for five years.

A year later, the University of Western Ontario lured him to Canada with $20 million in funding.

“Since arriving,” the doctor said in a report filed with the court, “we have seen 12 patients in Ontario (and one from Alberta) and, of these, two are able to communicate repeatedly using our (functional) MRI technique. In one case (a male traumatic brain injury patient who had been repeatedly diagnosed as vegetative for 12 years), we were able to ask the question ‘are you in any pain?’ and twice decoded the answer ‘no’ using our technique.”

The doctor continued: “I have not examined Mr. Ng, so I cannot judge whether he would be suitable for inclusion or not, but considering his clinical diagnosis (minimally conscious state), his age, and the nature of his injury I see no reason why he would not be an ideal candidate, subject to an assurance from his referring clinician that he would be safe to travel the distance.”

If the court intercedes, the family said it hopes to have Ng assessed by Owen’s team to see if he can be admitted into a new research study involving the groundbreaking techniques.

Lawyer Dahlgren said the court has no reason to step in: “Mr. Ng does not need protection in these circumstances.”

Justice Gropper reserved her decision.

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More Women and Minorities Need to Be Appointed Judges

disinherited.com wholeheartedly endorses the recent article in the Vancouver Sun on October 22, 2012 co -written by Marjorie Griffin Cohen and retired former Justice Donna Martinson.

There simply needs to be more women and minorities appointed as Federal Court appointed Judges to the BC  Supreme Court.

The authors noted that in the past two years the federal appointments to the Supreme Court of British Columbia have been 10 in number, none of which have

been female and none of from an ethnic minority.

Shockingly, since 2009, of the 31 appointments, only five were women and only one was not Caucasian.

The authors note that these mostly white male appointments simply compound the already historical serious lack of female and minority representation on the Supreme Court bench.

For many years now our society has become increasingly multicultural with a diversity of backgrounds, ethnicities, experiences, and perspectives that must be matched by the equivalent diversity and skills on our bench.

The report was also critical of the very few appointed justices who have experience in family law, of which there is a great need to be filled by our courts.

Family law by its very nature grapples with societal problems that ultimately affect everyone.

With the high divorce rates, It is probably the one area of law that most people will come into contact with at some point during their lifetime, yet it is seemingly not taken seriously by the powers that be.

 

For example, BC is one of the few Provinces that does not have specialized family courts, another  seemingly egregious oversight.

Women and minorities have historically been vulnerable and marginalized, yet  still have suffered dramatic cutbacks to legal assistance such as legal aid in recent years.

It is simply fair and the hallmark of an advanced democracy that skilled women and minorities be chosen in appropriate more proportional representations as members of the Supreme Court of British Columbia.

– See more at: http://www.disinherited.com/blog/more-women-and-minorities-need-be-appointed-judges#sthash.aeVoXURC.dpuf

Family Laws and Estate Planning Laws May Clash

Family v estate laws clashingFamily Laws and Estate Planning Laws May Clash

The laws relating to family law and estate planning are intersecting and clashing more and more often.

Until recent years, an entirely different approach was taken by the “Probate Courts” and their estate related actions, and the “Domestic Relations” Courts and their vitriolic divorces.

They were separate and distinct  in their case law precedents and general attitudes, but no more.

The Ontario case of Makarchuk v Makarchuk 2011 ONSC 4633 ( Appeal to Court of Appeal dismissed January 23,2012, and leave to appeal to the SCC refused) two different approaches clash.

The Makarchuks were married for over 40 years and separated, but did not divorce in 2003.

 

They signed a separation agreement ion 2003 and the husband died  5 years later in 2008.

The last will of the deceased, a retired lawyer, was one he prepared himself and signed 5 months prior to signing the separation agreement.

The wife was appointed executor and sole beneficiary.

The separation agreement contained a release of all claims provision that stated inter alia:

” –the husband and the wife each release all rights which he or she has or may acquire under the laws of any jurisdiction in the estate of the other–”

The issue was whether the wife had released her entitlement to share as a beneficiary and executor of her late husband’s estate.

An adult son of the marriage said that the separation agreement “thrumped the will”, but the Courts disagreed and allowed the wife to inherit.

The Court found that the wording of the release in the separation agreement ,made only 5 months after the will, was not broad enough include rights acquired under the will- the release only speaks of “rights acquired under the law.”

Many clients and even some lawyers do not appreciate the legal distinction between a separation and divorce.

Under the provisions of the Divorce Act, s 16, had the parties being divorced the widow why would not have been allowed to inherit and would have been treated in law as if she had predeceased her husband.

Since they were merely divorced, and the provisions of the release in the separation agreement were not exact enough to preclude the widow from inheriting, the court concluded that the deceased had ample time to change his will had he wished to do so, and allowed his wife to inherit

– See more at: http://www.disinherited.com/blog/family-laws-and-estate-planning-laws-may-clash-makarchuk-case#sthash.2Cpo3hVd.dpuf

Botswana Courts Grant Women Inheritance Rights For First Time

Periodically disinherited.com   republishes  an international  news story relating to inheritance laws.

While almost everywhere  in the world lacks the Wills Variation act that British Columbia and New Zealand enjoy, it is gratifying to  see the rights of  disinherited spouses anad children expanding throughout the world, slowly by slowly, where they replace previously   unjust laws.

In a landmark ruling Botswana’s High Court on Friday gave women inheritance rights for the first time, up-ending a male-dominated system that had prevailed in the thriving African nation.

Announcing the ruling, Justice Key Dingake said, “It seems to me that the time has now arisen for the justices of this court to assume the role of the judicial midwife and assist in the birth of a new world struggling to be born.”

The court ruled that a tribal law, giving the youngest-born son rights to inherit the family home was not in line with the country’s constitution, which guarantees gender equality.

The court had been hearing a case brought by three sisters aged over 65, whose claim to family property was being challenged by their nephew.

“This is a significant step forward for women’s rights not only in Botswana but in the southern Africa region, where many countries are addressing similar discriminatory laws,” said Priti Patel of the Southern Africa Litigation Centre.

 

Top Court Allows Plaintiff Teen In Defamation Suit To Remain Anonymous

Anonymous Witness

Early this week disinherited.com blogged about the willingness of the courts to protect the privacy of various litigants under certain circumstances.

The Supreme Court of Canada ruled on such an important issue today in a land mark decision  A.B v Bragg Communications Inc 2012 SCC 46

The  Court Facts are as Follows:

A 15‑year old girl found out that someone had posted a fake Facebook profile using her picture, a slightly modified version of her name, and other particulars identifying her.  The picture was accompanied by unflattering commentary about the girl’s appearance along with sexually explicit references.  Through her father as guardian, the girl brought an application for an order requiring the Internet provider to disclose the identity of the person(s) who used the IP address to publish the profile so that she could identify potential defendants for an action in defamation suit.  As part of her application, she asked for permission to anonymously seek the identity of the creator of the profile and for a publication ban on the content of the profile.

Two media groups opposed the request for anonymity and the ban.  The Supreme Court of Nova Scotia granted the request that the Internet provider disclose the information about the publisher of the profile, but denied the request for anonymity and the publication ban because there was insufficient evidence of specific harm to the girl.  The judge stayed that part of his order requiring the Internet provider to disclose the publisher’s identity until either a successful appeal allowed the girl to proceed anonymously or until she filed a draft order which used her own and her father’s real names.

The Court of Appeal upheld the decision primarily on the ground that the girl had not discharged the onus of showing that there was evidence of harm to her which justified restricting access to the media.

Held:  The appeal should be allowed in part.

The critical importance of the open court principle and a free press has been tenaciously embedded in the jurisprudence.  In this case, however, there are interests that are sufficiently compelling to justify restricting such access: privacy and the protection of children from cyberbullying.

Recognition of the inherent vulnerability of children has consistent and deep roots in Canadian law and results in the protection of young people’s privacy rights based on age, not the sensitivity of the particular child.  In an application involving cyberbullying, there is no need for a child to demonstrate that he or she personally conforms to this legal paradigm.  The law attributes the heightened vulnerability based on chronology, not temperament.

While evidence of a direct, harmful consequence to an individual applicant is relevant, courts may also conclude that there is objectively discernable harm.  It is logical to infer that children can suffer harm through cyberbullying, given the psychological toxicity of the phenomenon.  Since children are entitled to protect themselves from bullying, cyber or otherwise, there is inevitable harm to them — and to the administration of justice — if they decline to take steps to protect themselves because of the risk of further harm from public disclosure.  Since common sense and the evidence show that young victims of sexualized bullying are particularly vulnerable to the harms of revictimization upon publication, and since the right to protection will disappear for most children without the further protection of anonymity, the girl’s anonymous legal pursuit of the identity of her cyberbully should be allowed.

In Canadian Newspapers Co. v. Canada (Attorney General), [1988] 2 S.C.R. 122, prohibiting identity disclosure was found to represent only minimal harm to press freedom.  The serious harm in failing to protect young victims of bullying through anonymity, as a result, outweighs this minimal harm.  But once the girl’s identity is protected through her right to proceed anonymously, there is little justification for a publication ban on the non‑identifying content of the profile.  If the non‑identifying information is made public, there is no harmful impact on the girl since the information cannot be connected to her.  The public’s right to open courts –and press freedom – therefore prevail with respect to the non‑identifying Facebook content.

– See more at: http://www.disinherited.com/blog/top-court-allows-plaintiff-teen-defamation-suit-remain-anonymous#sthash.xLVthPCy.dpuf

Dysfunctional Families and Narcissistic Parents

Free Yourself From Narcissistic Parenting

I frequently encounter the disinherited victims of a deceased parent, and after a few minutes of questioning, it is easy for me to determine that the deceased likely suffered from a Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and the victim of narcissistic parenting.

 

A present client who has endured a great deal of suffering all her life due to narcissistic parenting, in this case, her uncaring father, forwarded me some passages about how to deal with this painful issue.

I am reproducing them today in the blog as I believe there is a good deal of need for this information.

I basically told my client to get over her father as he was one of the most self centred people I had ever heard about in 38 years of practicing law, and not worthy of her stress, depression and lost love.

 

Narcissistic Parenting: Take Back Your Life from Your Narcissistic Father

Narcissists cast dark shadows over our lives, especially when we are very young. Deep inside, instinctively,  we know that we must survive. Many of us go along not only to get along but to stay alive psychologically. Some young children in highly disturbed narcissistic families become hyper-vigilant – always surveying their environments for danger, threats, visceral feelings of being completely unsafe. Other children are less aware of the dynamics in the family on a conscious level. They distract themselves with activity, telling themselves that everything is all right. In our earliest years our minds normalize what we are experiencing. It is the rare person who as a small child knew that there was something fundamentally wrong, unjust, and highly disturbed about one or both of our parents.

Narcissistic fathers cannot parent. They are emotionally unavailable to their children. They go through the motions of interacting with them. They may give greater attention to a child whom they perceive will become a star, a standout in the family – this is another narcissistic supply for the father. He doesn’t care about the individuality of this son or daughter. He sees potential in them that can be nurtured and eventually will reflect  his greatness.The kids who don’t make the cut–the ones who are less attractive, (Blind / Deaf – CDD), highly sensitive, not socially skilled—-are set aside for neglect and constant ridicule. To the narcissistic father you are either his possession or you don’t exist. This man constantly appraises the value of his children to him. He sets unapproachable goals. Everyone must be at the top of the class or else. These fathers will take a son who has athletic capability and make them work out to the point of exhaustion and injury to fulfill their dream of having a son who is a professional athlete. Andre Agassi, the great tennis champion talks about his cruel narcissistic father’s forcing him from early childhood to practice hour after hour without let up. He didn’t care that his son hated tennis. Father prevailed. And yes, Agassi became a great champion but at a great price–years of abuse and agony.

There is an accumulation of truth about your narcissistic father. Some of his children recognize early that they are being used to prop up their father’s ego supplies and his grandiose self vision. Others identify with the father and spend their lives as his living servants. Those who wake up to the truth that the father is a merciless narcissist, sever this toxic relationship and begin the healing process of fulfilling their birthright of becoming a free separate individual. Some turn to professional psychotherapy and grieve for the real father they never had. There are other healing paths–meditation, hatha yoga, journaling, the forming of meaningful close relationships with individuals who care deeply about the real you. Those who go through this passage discover that they are finally free to lead their lives on their terms. They thrive, discover creative gifts that have been left dormant and gain confidence and inner peace by embracing their real selves.

Visit website: thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife

 

Narcissistic Parenting Sabotages Children

By definition sabotage is a “treacherous action.” Treachery when perpetrated upon a family member means destruction and annihilation. It is beyond ruthlessness.

Growing up in a family that exhibits narcissistic parenting is like being in the middle of a deadly fire fight twenty four hours a day. The child who survives these skirmishes and all out wars is truly remarkable. I hear and read life stories of those who found survival techniques. Many of them hide in their own shoes, spent time with friends to keep out of the war zone, slipped their minds away into books, video games, drawing, writing, other creative activities. Some children were fortunate to have a grandparent who would give them times of respite.

Some children who have this experience are in a constant state of anxiety – fight or flight syndrome. The narcissist – mother or father or both rule the household. Screams and demands–slaps and threats can be heard and experienced frequently in these homes. The narcissist lives for himself (herself) alone. Narcissists don’t love their children. They use them to prop up their egos if they perceive that a particular child can add to their perfect image. In this case the child is indulged. The rest of the kids are cast aside and neglected or treated abysmally. Some of these children find ingenious ways to save their sense of self, to conceal their creative gifts but continue to use them and to keep the inner fire of a sense of self burning brightly. I have known individuals who have been able to accomplish this despite all of the narcissistic pathology of their mother or father or both parents.

Adult children continue to heal through skilled psychotherapy and many forms of bringing the body/mind back into balance: gentle yoga, meditation, support groups, full use of your creativity. You can heal. You will heal.

 

Everyone is Disposable, Even the Spouse and Children

Narcissists are incapable of sincere feelings and deep relationships. They are brilliant actors. You make believe, even if you have been married to a narcissist for a number of years, that this person loves you. The narcissist in incapable of loving anyone. This is not part of his psyche. He/she views human relationships as stepping stones that will enhance their image socially and professionally, impress the right people.(Bernice). They are vehicles that smooth their way toward goals they have been fixated most of their lives. Absolutely no one, not even their spouses or children is permitted to create obstacles as they climb professionally, creating greater influence and connecting with the right people. When push comes to shove the narcissist is compelled due his dark motivations to manipulate and exploit those closest to them. Narcissists often substitute one family for another. It isn’t unusual for them to start with a beginning family. When they discover that their spouse and children are not capable of heightening their prestige and power reach, they abandon entire families. They have absolutely no guilt about these cruel, psychologically devastating decisions and their painful consequences.

Narcissists shift quickly to the next phase of their climb toward their targeted summit by seeking a second marriage that will bring them the connections and access to which they are entitled. This time they make sure that the new spouse has any number of a combination of qualifications. She could be a prominent medical specialist who is part of an auspicious social circle. Marrying into a prominent well established family is a tried and true route. Once accepted by this new family the narcissist digs in to eventually control its key members To solidify the union, they often have children with the new spouse to become indispensable to their newly created nuclear family and extended families.

The previous spouse and children have long been forgotten. The narcissist acts as if they never existed. Often he refuses to provide alimony and child support and uses the manipulations of the court system to avoid his legal and moral obligations. The narcissist views all of this like an annoyance, something he uses his handpicked attorneys to distance himself from the past. For the narcissist it doesn’t exist.

Narcissists are ultimate opportunists and exploiters so it isn’t surprising that some of them jump from one relationship or marriage to another, always looking for the fulfillment of their grandiose visions.

To learn about the narcissistic personality in-depth and to protect yourself from his/her tactics, study this fixed personality disorder which does not change. You deserve to be a part of genuine loving relationships built on trust, deep love and respect.

Further reading on Narcissistic Parenting

Cutting Ties with the Family and Estrangement

How to Survive a Narcissistic or Abusive Family

Aggressive Narcissism – There is Only Win or Lose

Identities of Innocent May Be Protected

BC Appeal Court in 1985 Rules Names of Innocent May Be Protected

Hirt v College of Physicians and Surgeons ( British Columbia) BCCA ( 1985) 3 WWR 350 was one of the first BC appeal court decisions, if not the first, to hold that the infringement of the right of the public to freedom of expression is justified where publicizing the identities of innocent parties will accomplish nothing and the rights of those innocent will be protected.

The respondent, the College of Physicians and Surgeons of British Columbia (the “college”), removed the appellant Dr. H.’s name from the medical register after holding an in camera hearing in which detailed evidence was heard respecting the sexual relations of Dr. H. and several of his patients, including Dr. Jane Doe, an intervenor in these proceedings, as well as the sexual relations of those patients with others.

Dr. H. appealed this decision. Dr. Doe sought an order in chambers to seal the file and to permit the use of pseudonyms and other devices to protect the true identity of the complainants and others.

Dr. Doe appealed from the decision of the chambers judge dismissing her application.

The Appeal was allowed.

Although public accessibility to the courts and to court records is needed so that society can be assured that justice has been done, reasonable limitations to that principle have been recognized for many years in free and democratic so­cieties.

It is demonstrably justifiable in a free and democratic society that the openness rule be restricted to protect the innocent when, as in this case, nothing would be accomplished by publicizing the identities of the complainants or their sexual partners.

The right of the public to be satisfied that justice has been done in a fair and public hearing by an independent tribunal would be assured as the full record of evidence — except as to the identities of the complainants and others — would be available and the hearing would be in open court.

The full transcript would be sealed and available to the appeal judge; the file transcript would delete the identities of the complainants and others and any information which could disclose those identities.

Counsel could use pseudonyms in memoranda and argument unless the hearing judge deemed necessary to do otherwise to ensure a fair hearing.

Mom Always Liked You Best

mom likes you best

It still cracks me up to visualize the cover of 1965 Smothers Brothers 8th comedy album ” Mom Always Liked You Best.”

The cover photograph shows Dick surrounded by a dog, a wagon, a scooter and many other toys while Tom is sitting there with just his chicken.

disinherited.com has a vehicle with this expression on the trunk, only changed to “Mom Always Loved You Best” just to inflame the sibling rivalry situation a bit more. It invariably is noticed by many a driver behind  observed laughing  in the mirror.

It is a universal human need to seek parental approval and love -lasting even to some’s death beds, with many more making it into an estate litigators office after the last parent passes away.

Sibling rivalry can be an enormous factor on ones emotional health and happiness in life, let alone bitter rivals in estate disputes over the parents assets.

On some subliminal level, parental assets equate to parental love, and siblings typically hate to see one get more than the other.

Studies show that  children are sensitive from the age of one year to differences in parental treatment.

From 18 months on siblings can understand family rules and know how to comfort and be kind to each other.

By 3 years years old, children have a sophisticated grasp of social rules, can evaluate themselves in relation to their siblings, and know how to adapt to circumstances within the family.

The problem occurs when the rivalry often continues not just throughout childhood , but into adulthood .

Sibling relationships can change dramatically for better or worse  over the years.

While events such as a parent’s illness may bring siblings closer together, a  marriage may drive them apart, particularly if the in-law relationship is strained.

Approximately one-third of adults describe their relationship with siblings as rivalrous or distant.

However, rivalry often lessens over time with  80 percent of siblings over age 60 reporting they  enjoy close ties.

Stieg Larsson Tragic Legacy Would Not Occur Under BC Estate Laws

Many of us have now heard the story about how the author of the famous trilogy, (” The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo”)  suddenly died prior his publication and financial success.

The truly shocking part of the story is that his common-law spouse of 32 years did not inherit his estate, which instead went to his two biological relatives being his father and younger brother.

This would not occur in British Columbia under the provisions of the Estate Administration act under which his entire estate would have gone to his surviving spouse, Ms. Gabrielsson.

This excerpt is taken from a recent  newspaper article on the subject :

 

“Blood Trumps Love

 

Gabrielsson and Larsson weren’t just a couple, but also a leftist action group. First they were Maoists and then Trotskyists, voicing their criticism of the Swedish welfare state from a leftist point of view. She was an architect, while he worked for a news agency. They managed to make ends meet, and had no children. Like many Swedes of their generation, they were anti-bourgeois.

In their social circle, while couples may have been monogamous, they didn’t marry. But under Swedish law, a member of an unmarried couple doesn’t inherit anything from his or her deceased partner, no matter how long the couple was together. Blood trumps love, unless a will exists, but Larsson hadn’t written one. For that reason, the rapidly growing proceeds from the sale of the books and the film rights went to two biological relatives, Larsson’s father Erland (his mother Vivianne is dead) and his younger brother Joakim. “The money went to us, but we didn’t ask for it,” says Erland Larsson, 76. They could have turned down the inheritance, but that wasn’t what they wanted.

The father and the brother still live in northern Sweden, in a city called Umea. The father occasionally visited his son in Stockholm and tried to convince him to get married, but the son only laughed at his father’s suggestion. The brothers, Stieg and Joakim, were not close and rarely saw each other.

After Larsson’s death, when his novels suddenly became such a huge success, the widow who isn’t a widow under the law sat down with Erland and Joakim Larsson to discuss what should happen next. An agreement seemed possible. But then attorneys took over the case, and an inheritance war ensued — one in which the Stieg Larsson fan community has participated extensively.

Two camps have since formed in Sweden: the (primarily female) Eva camp, with its own website (www.supporteva.com), and the (primarily male) Larsson camp (www.moggliden.com).”

disinherited.com is actually surprised that the matter has developed into two antagonistic groups.

To disinherited.com it would appear that the supposedly more equitable and modern  socialist state that Sweden purported to have , complete with paternal child care, has an incredible gaping hole in its  estate laws when it comes to the complete lack of inheritance rights by long time common-law spouses.

Thankfully this would no longer occur in British Columbia

– See more at: http://www.disinherited.com/blog/stieg-larssons-tragic-legacy-would-not-occur-under-bc-estate-laws#sthash.SHZCSJ6b.dpuf